So… Following on our little experiment, what happened when you practiced “No complaining, no making excuses, no blaming”?
One of the most significant rewards of ‘no complaining’ is that sometimes, as a situation becomes so unbearable, without the ability to spew our negativity through complaining, we have no other choice but to actually change that situation! You’ll also notice your friends’ gratitude when you implement that one, hehe 🙂
‘Making excuses’ can be a subtle one… It requires of us to be true to ourselves and watch closely the words we use and the way we choose to put them together. Did you catch yourself writing that text saying “Sorry I couldn’t make it”, when in fact you could have said “I’m sorry I didn’t make it”. There’s a world of difference between “I can’t” and “I won’t” – That difference is Power. Not control, but standing in our own power. Owning up to the choices we make. No longer playing the victim of circumstances, but taking responsibility for our choices, our lives and therefore our happiness.
Which brings us to ‘no blaming’ where we have the opportunity to enter a whole new realm of consciousness… I first experienced this shift in perception when I read a book called ‘Radical Forgiveness’. This was my first introduction to the concept that whatever happens / manifests in our lives, we have created for ourselves in order to grow and learn. So that we may transcend / heal whatever each specific experience brings up in us – We simply can not heal if we blame ourselves or others –
There is a Hawaiian tradition called ho’oponopono, whereby we look at any conflict in our lives and take responsibility for it by mentally holding the person or situation in our mind’s eye and saying: “I’m sorry. I love you” – you may want to read the story of Dr Hew Len who cleared (literally emptied) a whole institute for mentally ill criminals by this practice alone! I have had my share of mind-blowing results using this simple tool…
It is easy to get stuck in the role of the victim. Taking responsibility for the challenges that manifest in our lives doesn’t mean that we are guilty or to blame for the situation, it just means that we value our personal peace and wellbeing more than our desire to be right or earn other people’s sympathy.
May we all find the courage to experience just how powerful we are! And with Christmas coming up, we can all look forward to many opportunities to practice!
Seraphim
“With great power comes great responsibility” –Voltaire
“With great responsibility comes great power” –Seraphim 😉
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